Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Where do you sit?
Where you choose to sit in a room can sometimes say a lot about you. Back row? Maybe it means, “I’d rather not be here” or “I slipped in late.” Front row? Maybe, “I’m so excited to learn” or “I can’t see unless I’m up close.” Even your postures sends silent messages about your attitude that day.
Sometimes, in a small way, where you choose to sit indicates who you choose to be.
A woman named Mary of Bethany taught us some important truths about where we sit and who we choose to be:
"As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!" "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her." (Luke 10:38-42)
Can you picture it with me? A crowded room of people (perhaps mostly men), with Jesus at the center of it all. One woman sits on the floor at His feet, with a steady, adoring gaze directed at His face. She seems unaware of anything or anyone but Him, and hangs on His every word. She has found the Lover of her soul. God, her Maker, sits in front of her as the only perfect man (Jesus) and she isn’t going to miss a moment with Him.
Where do you sit? Choose to reject all the lesser things that call your name. Choose to sit and gaze often at Jesus. He is your Life. If you neglect to sit at His feet, and gaze, and believe, and receive from Him....you miss life.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Losing Your Appetite
Other music/books/movies have a more toxic effect on you spiritually, like downing a glass of rotten egg-nog would have on you physically. You get food poisoning, and find yourself gagging into the toilet or spending the night at the E.R. Sometimes the effect of a movie or book are immediately obvious like that. Other times, the affects are slow and subtle… like a life-time of ingesting cancer-causing substances in your food. It seems harmless for years, until the fatal consequences become obvious too late.
Are you losing your appetite for the only One who can satisfy and overwhelm and amaze you, by filling up over and over again on other things? Whether or not you realize it, by doing this you are missing out….big time. You were made to be fascinated by and obsessed with and passionate about Jesus. Skip the junk that makes you lose your appetite for Him.
Friday, October 16, 2009
Don't Settle for Shallow
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It REALLY annoys me when girls are sent the message that they're supposed to be shallow. You've probably noticed the expectation underlying all of teenage-girl-dom: "Just be cute and have fun!"
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There's nothing wrong with being cute or with having fun, but you were made for so much MORE than this, girls. I want more than this for you and, more importantly, your Maker designed you for more than this. You were made for the depths! You were made to be fascinated by greatness and glory and beauty and brilliance beyond your greatest imagination, and then to be transformed to reflect it. You were made, girls, to be amazed. You were made for God!! The fact that glitz and glamor attract us, the truth that sunsets take our breath away, the reality that we long for romance, all point to something very important about why you were created. You were made, as the psalmist expresses in Psalm 27 :4, to "gaze upon the beauty of the Lord all the days of your life."
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Sound boring? :) Then you haven't glimpsed Him yet. You haven't had your heart melted by His majesty yet. You haven't fallen head-over-heels in love with Him yet. There are greater depths for you to explore and enjoy in God than you have ever guessed. And girls.....NOW is the time to be fascinated by Him. Now is the time to chase after your Maker. Now is the time to fall deeply, passionately in love with your Savior. DON'T - PLEASE don't - waste your teenage years on other things. Yes, guys are cute. Yes, facebook quizzes are addicting. Yes, novels can keep you up all night. Yes, movies are entertaining. Yes, keeping the trendiest clothes in your closet can be a full-time hobby. Yes, sports and extra-curriculars can keep you crazy-busy. But don't settle for a life of ONLY, or even MOSTLY these things. The stereotype is that you will be shallow; that your thoughts and goals will be wrapped around being cute (and "cute" is an impossibly difficult standard to attain) and having fun (ooooh, we entertain ourselves so much...but is that what we were MADE for???). Reject the stereotype!! You were made for more than this. You were made to be amazed by God, and to be so in love with and fascinated by Him that it spills over in crazy, not-at-all-shallow ways in your life.
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Ok, so here's the assignment. In light of what I posted above, and in light of the cool quotes and verses below, tell me what you're thinking. In what ways, specifically, is it REALLY tempting to be shallow? What are the biggest life-wasters that teenage girls struggle with? What can be the most distracting for Christian girls? Why is it, do you think, that so few teenage girls recognize that only God can satisfy their hearts? And what will YOU do to begin chasing after this fascinating Maker/Savior/Warrior God that you were MADE to be amazed by? (Hint...start reading His Word and asking Him to amaze you. He will.) Email me at ashley.wollam@babfc.org with your 200-300 word response, and I'm going to schplice it all together and post your heartbeats. Y'all are awesome. :) Don't miss life.
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Quotes to get your mind whirring:
“The preoccupations of seventeen year old girls - their looks, their clothes, their social life - do not change very much from generation to generation. But in every generation there seem to be a few who make other choices. Amy was one of the few.” (Elizabeth Elliot in her book A Chance to Die: The Life and Legacy of Amy Carmichael)
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“We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at sea.” C.S. Lewis
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"You have made us for Yourself, O God, and our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee." Augustine of Hippo (354-430 AD)
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"Once we had no delight in God, and Christ was just a vague historical figure. What we enjoyed was food and friendships and productivity and investments and vacations and hobbies and games and reading and shopping and sex and sports and art and TV and travel...but not God. He was an idea - even a good one - and a topic for discussion; but He was not a treasure of delight. Then something miraculous happened. It was like the opening of the eye of the blind during the golden dawn. First the stunned silence before the unspeakable beauty of holiness. Then a shock and terror that we had actually loved the darkness. Then the settling stillness of joy that this is the soul's end (purpose). The quest is over. We would give anything if we might be granted to live in the presence of this glory forever and ever. And then, faith - the confidence that Christ has made a way for me, a sinner, to live in his glorious fellowship forever, the confidence that if I come to God through Christ, he will give me the desire of my heart to share his holiness and behold his glory." John Piper in Desiring God
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Nuggets of Truth:
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One thing I ask of the LORD,
this is what I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD
and to seek him in his temple.
Psalm 27:4
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"O God, you are my God,
earnestly I seek you;
my soul thirsts for you,
my body longs for you,
in a dry and weary land
where there is no water.
I have seen you in the sanctuary
and beheld your power and your glory.
Because your love is better than life,
my lips will glorify you.
I will praise you as long as I live,
and in your name I will lift up my hands.
My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods;
with singing lips my mouth will praise you.
On my bed I remember you;
I think of you through the watches of the night.
Because you are my help,
I sing in the shadow of your wings.
Psalm 63:1-8
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"You have made known to me the path of life;
you will fill me with joy in your presence,
with eternal pleasures at your right hand."
Psalm 16:11
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"Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent." John 17:3
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"Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God." Colossians 3:1-3
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These are just a few truths to draw you into the search for the Treasure (Jesus!), a search that will mean the not-shallow life that you were made to live NOW....now, as a teenage girl. Dive in. He will never bore you.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Father-Daughter Banquet!!

6th-12th grade girls and their fathers or father-figures are invited to attend this memorable event! Tickets can be purchased Wednesday night in the Student Center (just ask a staff member) or Sunday morning, October 4, between services.
Also, if you or your daughter are planning to attend, submit an early childhood picture of father and daughter together to be part of an "aawww!"-evoking slideshow! Pictures should be sent to ashley.wollam@bafbc.org or delivered to the main office.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Daughter-hood ;)
http://joyfullyathome.blogspot.com/.
This is the blog of an amazing 19 year old girl named Jasmine who belongs to Jesus Christ and who is wise beyond her years. Check out her post titled "Family Dynamics and the Adult Daughter." You girls aren't adult daughters, yet, but Jasmine offers some advice that could make your teenage years so much more beautiful and free and smooth. Check out the points she makes about relating to her parents. Gooood stuff.
I love you girls, more than you know. ;)
Let's live to know and love and honor Jesus in everything, including our relationships with our parents. To obey Jesus in this will mean freedom and joy for you. :)
Your big sister,
Ashley
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Student-Led Accountability Group
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Cyndie Meersman and Ashley Rogers have just started a student-only accountability group which will take place in the Student Center conference room on Sunday evenings from 6:00-7:00pm.
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If you'd like to get together with other students to challenge each other in your daily walk with God, hold each other accountable, and pray together, come check this group out!
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Thanks, Cyndie and Ashley, for letting God use you in this way.
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I love you girls.... a LOT. ;)
Ashley
Friday, May 8, 2009
Doulos Girls Groups. It's time to get serious.

Friday, March 13, 2009
Breathtaking!!

Thursday, February 19, 2009
Those Itchy Little Tags

Has anyone else learned how important it is to read those itchy little tags inside your clothes before you try to wash them? Mmm-hmmm. New red shirts can turn the rest of your laundry pink. "Dry clean only" dresses can come out looking ridiculous if you wash them with your load of blue jeans. Instructions can be very important.
Who makes the rules on the little tags, I wonder? What a crazy job! I'm sure those individuals have to be experts on the types of fabric that are used to make each article of clothing.
Looking at the tag before you wash a new outfit is kind of like reading the little piece of plastic that sticks out of plants at a garden store. Who knew that some plants need to be in the shade and also require 3.75 drops of water every 4 hours? (Slight exaggeration.) I'm sure many plants have died because girls like me have thought "Ooh! Cute plant!" and didn't read the instructions on the little plastic thing sticking out of the dirt. Even worse, sometimes we just pick the pretty flowers right out of the flowerbed because we want to keep them with us. We want them now. Then, of course, the plant dies.
You know what else that's like? We, you and I, were made a very specific way. In some ways we're very delicate, and our Maker is an expert (of course!) on the way that we must be handled….the way our lives must be lived. If we ignore His instructions (like washing clothes the wrong way, or killing a pour little succulent plant because you forget to water it), only bad things can happen. Life becomes what our Maker never intended it to be. Brokenness and darkness and destruction come.
God (such a trustworthy, good, generous God!) has given instructions for our lives that are there to protect us (like keeping your puppy in a fence, because there's a pit bull next door!) and to show us how to best live….how to beautifully live.
One of the instructions He has provided has to do with our sexuality. He has designed us, and designed our sexuality, to work a very specific way. His very good plan is for sex to take place ONLY between one man and one woman who are committed to each other forever in marriage. Misusing sex (like sex outside of marriage, or homosexuality) is like killing a beautiful plant because you yank it out of the ground instead of leaving it where it was meant to grow and thrive. Misusing sex is like ruining that adorable new dress before you ever get to wear it, because you didn't bother to read that water makes the fabric melt! Yikes! Disobeying God's careful instructions about sex (that it is to be between one man and one woman who have said "yes" to forever!) is like showing up at the beach and drinking glass after glass of salt water. Salt water is great to splash around in, but it's poisonous if you use it the wrong way…..poisonous if you misuse it.
Just a glance at the magazines in the checkout line, or 10 seconds of the evening news, and you realize that many, many people haven't read the instructions that our Maker, the Expert on human beings, has given about the use of our sexuality. Celebrities make it look glamorous to sleep with someone who's never promised them "forever"... who's never promised to love them no matter what...who's never decided, "I value you enough to tell myself 'no'." And even those who say "I do" don't seem to really get it, because it's not long before they give up on "forever." Other beautiful young stars decide to ignore the instructions of our Maker by misusing sex in another way…by choosing homosexuality. Our culture celebrates, and makes a trend out of, cheapening and misusing something that was designed to be beautiful….special….powerful….protected. We are all so broken, we human beings, because we have ignored what our Maker has said. And the sad thing is, many people will never know how amazing sexuality could be, how it was designed to be, because they never bothered to read the instructions.
Magazine covers and movie theatres are filled with people who have chosen to wash their "dry clean only" dress with their dirty socks. They've chosen to pick the flower out of the pot because it looks so pretty, never realizing that it will soon whither and die in their hands. They have decided that the owner who put the fence around them was mean or stupid, and have chosen to dig out from under the fence and scamper towards the pit bull.
So let me challenge you, ladies: follow the instructions of our Maker. Trust that He knows, much better than we do, how we can best live. Believe that this very complex thing called "sexuality" is delicate, and can be ruined if we use it the wrong way. In fact, the misuse of it is poison to us. Choose to show kindness and grace to those who have ignored the instructions. They are not our enemies! Because they have ignored the instructions, they will experience pain and disappointment. Gently encourage them to trust the Maker, and to follow His instructions, too. And PRAY. Sometimes the urge to yank the flower out of the pot is strong! Sometimes we feel impatient, and want to toss our delicate silk dress in the load with our messy paint clothes. Ask our Maker to help you to trust Him, to help you to follow His instructions carefully, to help you to live beautifully.
The One who made you, ladies, is an unbelievably skillful weaver! He has carefully, lovingly designed the intricate details and elaborate stitching of your heart, body, and soul. Show Him love and respect by being careful and gentle with His masterpiece.
His masterpiece is you.
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Revolve Tour!

Ladies, I hope you will plan to attend The Revolve Tour: All Access this February! We'll be heading up to the Toyota Center February 13th (Friday, leaving 5pm) and February 14th (Saturday, leaving 8am...Happy Valentine's Day!) for this amazing event.
This year, we're encouraging as many moms to join us as possible! This is the perfect event for you to have some Mother-Daughter bonding time, while also rocking out with your friends to Hawk Nelson, Krystal Meyers, and Natalie Grant. Tickets are $62, and that price includes lunch on Saturday. We have a limited number of seats together, so sign up now!
Thursday, December 11, 2008
GIGO ;)

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Ladies, I wanted to share a few things in response to some questions I’ve gotten from some of you about what sorts of books and movies we should choose to read and watch. The “Twilight” craze is a big deal for many of you, and so we should have a Big-Sister-Little-Sister chat about this. =)
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First of all, whether or not to read or watch “Twilight” is up to you and your parents. Your parents are very smart, and love you very much, so talk with them about this issue…and do whatever they say…with a sweet attitude. (I’m a daughter too, remember? And I’ve learned, over the years, the importance of honoring my parents. That “honoring” part refers to our attitudes, too. It makes me sad when girls complain about their parents.)
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Whenever I’m thinking about what movies to watch, books to read, websites to visit, etc., there are several important facts that help me make my decision. I want to share them with you girls.
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Think Aspertane and Sunburns
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Do you know what “aspertane” is? It’s the chemical-y stuff (I’m definitely not a scientist!) in artificial sweeteners. It is in Sweet-N-Low, diet drinks, gum, etc. Apparently it can cause brain cancer! Yikes! I don’t know much about it, but from what I understand it is a very good reason to stay away from diet drinks and fake sweeteners. One Diet Dr. Pepper won’t kill you, but apparently letting aspertane build up in your system over time could be hazardous to your health!
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Everyone knows that getting sunburned too many times can lead to skin cancer, right? Again, sun exposure is a gradual danger. I got a sunburn this summer when we all went to Schlitterbahn. If I don’t make a habit of being careful in the sun and using sunscreen consistently…..Hmm. Bad news for me down the road!
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Have you ever thought about the fact that the stuff we expose our minds to, the stuff we fill our hearts with, might be like aspertane or sun damage? What if even small amounts of bad entertainment can have major, long-term affects on us? Stick with me for a second! You see, I belong to Jesus Christ. He “loves us, and released us from our sins by His blood.” (Rev. 1:6) And I’m ALL His. Forever. And you know what else? I’m learning more and more that He, my MAKER and Savior, is much smarter than me. Big time. And He knows a lot more about what’s good for me than I do. =) So when He says things like He does in these verses, I want to listen! (Don’t skip this part! Most important of all!)
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“Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.” 2 Corinthians 7:1
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“May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14
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“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” James 1:27
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“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus…” Hebrews 12:1-2
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These are just a few verses that tell me some VERY important things about life. About really, beautifully living. Apparently, (this is key! huge! very important!) there are things that I could be exposed to (movies, books, TV shows, music?) that could pollute my mind and heart and soul. Contaminate. Hinder me. Entangle me. And what should break my heart as a daughter of God and follower of Jesus: they could cause me to displease God my Savior. Yikes! I don’t want anything to make me less likely to love God, please God, or honor God. I owe Him everything, all I have to give, forever. I am His.
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Especially as I’ve grown to understand more and more just how amazing God is, and how much we can trust Him and how beautiful it is to obey Him, I have tried to be very careful about what I let into my mind through my eyes or ears. But there have been a few books I’ve read or movies I’ve seen that, even though other Christians didn’t consider them “bad,” ended up causing my mind to think about and be drawn toward things that aren’t pleasing to our Maker and Savior. And that is a tragedy, because I so want to please Him with every thought I think, and every desire of my heart.
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If I spend time focusing on and thinking about characters who don’t love God, who choose to reject the beauty of His design for us, or if I expose my mind to stories that have even hints of evil or demonic things, it may gradually erode my deep conviction that my Maker is good, and that obeying Him is beautiful. I may become slowly, gradually numb to His voice, or careless in my relationship with Him, or get so used to thinking about sin that it is no longer horrible to me. Oh girls….I pray you won’t let this happen to yourselves.
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Think Hawaii.
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Mmmm, Hawaii. Or the Swiss Alps. Or Disney World. Think of someplace that you’d really like to go, but that would be an expensive trip. When people are saving their money for something big and wonderful, they have to say “no” to other stuff, right? If I was saving for a trip to Hawaii, I might have to say “no” to buying Starbucks (which I love!) so that I could have something even better in the long run. Hmmm…. Something better. What if that is true of what we give our heart’s attention, our daydreams and thoughts, to?
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“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians 4:8
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“Turn my eyes away from worthless things.” Psalm 119:37 (I prayed this so many times during college!)
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Sometimes, there are books and movies that don’t seem that bad to me. But my question for myself, and for you, is whether or not they are best? If my Maker says to only think about what is true, pure, and excellent, then I want to do that because I can trust Him. If there are “worthless things” that I should say no to, so that I can have the much “better” thing of pleasing the Lord with all my thoughts and daydreams and opinions, then I want to have the wisdom to do that.
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It’s okay to be “clueless.”
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People have told me that I am “clueless” my whole life. Although I try not to be, I am sometimes accidentally ditzy. Absent-minded. Clueless. That’s not exactly what I’m talking about here, though.
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When it comes to things that everyone else seems to know about, even my very best friends, sometimes it is ok to be “clueless.” Sometimes, in fact, it’s very good for my mind and heart if there are some movies I haven’t seen, some books I haven’t read, some shows I haven’t watched. Check this out:
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“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” I Peter 2:9
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“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Romans 12:2
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Ephesians 5:1-16 – I hope you’ll go read these verses! They’re too long to put in this already-too-long blog entry, but here we’re told to think about our life in light of what is proper “for God’s holy people,” to “live as children of light…and find out what pleases the Lord,” and (drumroll! important!) to “be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”
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Soooo…wow. Maybe being His, belonging to Jesus, learning to live as “children of light,” might involve being “clueless” to things that all our friends know about. Maybe that’s part of what “not conforming” to the pattern of this world means. Maybe, instead of automatically reading and watching books and movies that seem cool, we should choose not to “conform” or be like everyone else.
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The sad thing is that quite often movies and books are created by people who are “clueless” about some important things. They are “clueless” to the fact that there is a Maker who tells us how to live beautifully. They are “clueless” to the fact that we need a Savior, and that Jesus is that Savior, and that when we become His, He sets His seal of ownership on us and begins to radically transform us. They are “clueless” to the fact that thinking about and focusing on sin might lure us away from what is beautiful…from the things of God. I would rather be “clueless” about some books and movies, so that I’m not influenced by those who might, sadly, be “clueless” about the God who made us and loves us.
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“GIGO” Defined
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“G.I.G.O.” is an acronym for “Garbage In, Garbage Out.” It’s actually a computer programming term, but is very helpful to our choices about our media “input!” We are more affected by the “garbage” that is found in some movies and books than we might think. Let me explain.
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We are very mold-able. We are affected by the things that we spend time focusing on and thinking about. Did you know that a recent study has shown that teenage girls who watch certain T.V. shows, shows which focus on a version of romance that is not God’s design for us, are more likely to become pregnant as teenagers? Without even realizing what is happening to us, we can begin to act like our favorite characters on TV, or in books, or in movies. Reese Witherspoon is quoted in an awesome book (Lies Young Women Believe, by Nancy Leigh DeMoss), and she says this: “When you make a film you keep people captive for two hours and if you have nothing to say, or the wrong thing to say, it can have a really negative impact.” I wouldn’t recommend every movie that Reese has been in, but she makes a good point there! Because the things that we give our time and attention to are so likely to change and affect the way we look at life, we should be very wise and cautious. Sin is a big deal, and I want to allow God to protect me from it.
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So here’s my GIGO challenge for us. Let’s put our minds and hearts on a diet. Let’s realize that there are some popular movies, or books, or TV shows, or websites that a girl-in-love-with-God decides to avoid, just like there are foods that a healthy girl chooses not to eat. Let’s trust God enough to think about whether or not filling our minds with a certain book or movie is “pleasing” to Him. Let’s get hard-core about this. We won’t regret it in the long run, girls, because what God has for us is truly beautiful. I’m learning that more each day and I want you to, also.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Falling in Love in Virginia

Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Ike: A Glimpse at the Real You!

Thursday, August 28, 2008









